This reflection, adapted largely from Gianluigi Gugliermetto in Matthew Fox’s Daily Meditations, continues my three-part series on vows. As an officiant, I find his insights deeply relevant to the work of holding vows at the center of the wedding ceremony. In my earlier reflections, I called vows the heart and soul of a wedding ceremony. […]
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Vows, Part I Inspired by Gianluigi Gugliermetto’s meditation in Matthew Fox’s Daily Meditations (9/24/25) Of all the moments in a wedding ceremony, when two people turn to each other and speak their vows, the air changes. Guests lean in. Even the restless children grow quiet. Why? Because vows are different from promises. As Gugliermetto reminds […]
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Have you ever been walking in the woods when someone spots a deer or a blue heron? In that moment, a kind of urgent hush comes over the group, for fear of disturbing the moment—or missing it entirely. In a wedding ceremony, that moment comes when the vows are spoken. The music has quieted by […]
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